Thursday, December 21, 2023

The Legend of the Monsoon Mongoose

There once lived a young mongoose named Ninkilie.  He was born and raised in the valley on the island of Mamahoohoo.  This terrain resembled a wide and deep cone, with their village at the bottom.  It was said that those who tried to leave never survived.  The first challenge would be to climb the steep walls that surrounded them; thus, no one in recent generations ever made the attempt.

For many, there was no reason to ever leave, as all the resources to prosper and enjoy life were all in the valley.  Despite this, Ninkilie was always curious of the world outside.  He would go to bed every night, and dream of all the adventures that he would like to experience.  The books he read from the travels of his ancestors prior to building and settling in his village sparked his imagination.

He fanaticized about sailing the open sea, traveling to distant lands, interacting with other species, trying different foods, and exploring different cultures; concurrently learning and expanding his mind for the better.  And when he was done with his journey, Ninkilie thought about returning to give back to the village that has given him so much; sharing his bounty of goods from his voyages, along with the many stories he would tell.

As one could fathom, his family belittled his dream.  They would point to others in the village who were doing quite well for themselves, and have done their duty of giving back to the community.  Some of them even found covertly clever ways to disparage Ninkilie; frequently projecting their own demons, all while showing their loving face towards him amongst the tribe.  Ninkilie's father always compared him to the other children, and on many occasions scolded him in public; often in front of his siblings. 

Humiliated and frustrated, Ninkilie was determined more than ever to leave Mamahoohoo.  He just needed to figure out how.  He went back to the village books and maps of his ancestors, and studied them religiously.  His research paid off, as he finally devised a meticulous plan for his escape.  The key, he would soon discover, was a need for a major distraction for a discreet exodus.

That day came in the form of a monsoon.  Ninkilie was prepared for this, as he had also scrutinized his ancestors' almanacs, did the anticipatory calculations, and had timed everything right for this moment.  While his pounding heart felt like it was in his throat and his head racing with nervous energy, he remained focused on the task at hand.  

The valley was quickly inundated with colossal winds and torrential rain, devastating the village, as all the mongooses scattered for higher ground.  Because the valley was cone-like, the bottom was soon flooding.  Ninkilie had developed a floatation device, that would take him to as high as it could, so he could climb out the rest of the way.  

Many of the villagers, including much of Ninkilie's family, luckily found refuge in a cave mid-way to the top.  Soon, everyone discovered Ninkilie across the way attempting to climb out of the valley.  Just as all gazed in disbelief, the downpour got so intense that it blocked their view.  There was a consensus among kin that not only would Ninkilie not make it out of the valley, he would fall off and drown in the deep waters below.  They also predicted that his body would then sink to the bottom, and they would lovingly hold a service and cremate him once the monsoon had passed.

[To be continued...]

AMOR FATI 

Thank you and good night.   

P.S. Happy Winter Solstice and Happy Holidays!

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Tuesday, December 12, 2023

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"Often when you think you're at the end of something, you're at the beginning of something else."

-Fred Rogers

First off, I want to wish Everyone around the world Happy Holidays!  

While there appears to be a lot of turmoil going on on this planet, unfortunately this sort of activity will continue until it reaches its apex.  Though the global venues and circumstances may change, conflicts are due to ensue and may even escalate.  

Luckily, in our 3D world, there exists dichotomy.  It may not always be reported in the mass media.  All the same, logically if there is negative, there must be positive.  We do not have to be religious or in touch with our spirituality to understand this.  

We have the innate desire for both destruction and contribution.  The former does not have to be something negative.  Destruction of old negative patterns of thought and behaviour can yield to a new avenue for positivity to flourish.  Ditto goes for those relationships that are no longer viable; be it family, friends, etc.  Our happiness awaits! 

May we freely allow our God-given kind nature to shine through, while at the same time protect our energies, and remain vigilant over our personal boundaries.  It is possible to operate in the spirit of optimism, without the stigma of such a paradigm to be construed as naïve in our own minds.  That is completely within our control.

AMOR FATI

Thank you and good night.

P.S. This New Moon in optimistic Sagittarius is the last one for the year. 

P.P.S. The older photo below is "the first image of Earth from another astronomical object (the Moon) and first picture of both Earth and the Moon from space" (circa 1966 A.D., with multiple references noted on Wikipedia).

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gXDMoiEkyuQ&t=13s

Saturday, November 11, 2023

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"Do not negotiate who you are."

-Brené Brown

Paraphrasing a story in The Bible, Lord Jesus was standing on the water amidst a storm at sea, calling to Peter to come to him.  Peter's boat had capsized and he was swimming for his life, direly surrounded by the monstrous waves.  When the illuminated Jesus opened his arms and beaconed, Peter too rose above onto the water, and walked toward the light.  There appeared a sense of peace and calm, despite all the surrounding chaos.

As soon as Peter took his attention off Jesus, and came into disbelief as to his walking on water, he crashed back down into the roaring tides.

Today marks the zenith of that connectedness between this world and the Divine.  Whether we are religious or not, there is a Force that guides us toward our goals and inspirations, if only we reach out without ego.  This means, just as the story of Jesus and Peter, we too must surrender our human mindedness, and trust in our intuition; allowing the Universe to work through us towards progress and achievement.  We can choose to be open to the idea of feeling better and vibrating higher.  May we find it in ourselves to make that decision today.

AMOR FATI

Thank you and good night.

P.S. Today, the date appears the same worldwide, regardless if we use MM/DD/YYYY or DD/MM/YYYY.

P.P.S. Whether we support the idea of war or not, Veterans Day or Remembrance Day commemorates many of those who have decided to do something noble with their lives; many at the cost of their own.


Wednesday, November 1, 2023

el Día de los Muertos: A New Earth

 "To express yourself in freedom, you must die to everything of yesterday. From the 'old', you derive security; from the 'new', you gain the flow."

-Bruce Lee

While we celebrate those who have transitioned, it is also a reminder that we die every night, and are reborn the next day.  Whether we choose to embrace the concept or not, it is reality.  When we engage in our "usual" thing, that is out of habit, and thus our karma.  To break the cycle, if we want to, is to firstly be willing to change for the better.  

I get it.  We just had our first Lunar Eclipse and our energy is either all over the place or completely drained.  Whatever it is, we ought to look in the mirror now, and sincerely ask ourselves what it is that we want.  Without this realization or awareness, we could very well be at the end of our lives bewildered and confused.  It doesn't have to be that way.  We can choose to work towards that upgrade; to be that better version of ourselves.

AMOR FATI 

MEMENTO MORI

Thank you and good night.

P.S. Let us not take for granted if we are to wake the next day.  Many on the planet will not.  

Saturday, October 14, 2023

Ring of Fire

"I am never upset for the reason I think."

-A Course in Miracles

Today marks the first of a series of eclipses.  From what I understand, these come after a series of Supermoons.  Hope some of you folks checked it out.  I did manage to see it via an internet broadcast.  The major reason is that it is ill-advised to look directly at a solar eclipse without proper eyewear.  I am not sure if that is true for lunar eclipses.

With the Solar Eclipse and the New Moon in Libra, supposedly this is a period where the truth comes out.  This time frame is also known as "Mental Mercury".  We may have the greater urge to have that candid yet "hard" conversation.  While it is always good to level with people we care about, this is perhaps the best chance to do so.  

Maybe a relationship we have is not working, and its conclusion is long overdue.  This could be not just with a romantic partner, but also with friends, family members, business associates, etc.  Also, during this time, projects may appear to be failing and goals seem to increasingly get farther away.  It is certainly understandable if our energy feels heavy, as the attainment of what we want nearly looks impossible.  We must remember that there is more than meets the eye.

May we let go and let God.

AMOR FATI

Thank you and good night.

Friday, September 29, 2023

Superluna de la Cosecha en Aries

 "That didn't happen.

And if it did, it wasn't that bad.

And if it was, that's not a big deal.

And if it is, that's not my fault.

And if it was, I didn't mean it.

And if I did, you deserved it."

-The Narcissist's Prayer, by Dayna Craig

[Healing thoughts and prayers to all my fellow NYers during the flooding.  We will come out of this stronger!]

I hope some of you were able to take a glimpse of the last Supermoon of the year tonight.  If not, there may be one more chance the tomorrow night, though I am not 100% certain.  As the title of this blog entry expresses, our Moon is currently in Aries during the Harvest season.  Even if someone is not born an Aries, this phenomenon is still affecting us all to some degree.

What this could mean is that during this period, there is a sense of spontaneity governing our decisions, while at the same time we have a drastic increase in our drive to accomplish our goals and agenda.  If there is a sudden surge of anxiety to have what we want right now, that is understandable, given the energy field we are in.

As I have mentioned in previous posts, I am no expert in the realm of astrology, nor do I claim to be.  Having said that, it is perhaps best for those who are interested in the subject to simply do their own due diligence.  Just like modern science, it is an empirical study for which to guide us in making sense of our Earthly existence and the world around us.  In fact, one could say that astrology is a part of a collection of studies that led to the science we know today.

AMOR FATI

Thank you and good night.

P.S. Happy Mid-Autumn Festival!  中秋節快樂!

Saturday, September 23, 2023

Happy Autumn Equinox

 "Don't say it's wheat until you harvest it."

-Arabic Proverb

"Truly I tell you, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain, 'Move from here to there,' and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you.”

-Matthew 17:20-21

If we had done our work even during the summer, then whether we see results right now or not, the energy required is moving in the direction towards its fruition.  Throughout the world, there are stories passed down over time that emphasize the virtue of patience, perseverance, and vision.   

We also see this in nature, in the example of the Chinese bamboo tree.  According to a number of sources, this plant takes several years to grow.  It will remain under the surface of the soil almost the entire time, while requiring constant watering and attention.  In the final year, when it breaks above ground, it can grow a staggering 90 feet in just a few weeks!

So too, we all do not grow the same way and in the same timing.  This means that we all have our "Autumn" at different times, for different areas in our lives.  While it is Autumn for the planet, right now could be "Spring" for some of us; exciting ideas sprouting in our minds, ready to be implemented through right planning and action.  We all have our own path to take that is unique to us.  

It truly is all relative.  

In a future blog, perhaps the next one, I plan to write about how scientifically age is simply just a number.  'Til then...

AMOR FATI

Thank you and good night.

P.S. Autumn is my favourite season!  

Monday, September 11, 2023

9-11: Part Seven, Chapter Four...

"You don't build a bond without being present."
-James Earl Jones 

[First and foremost, my continued sympathies to all those who lost loved ones, as well as my ongoing prayers to everyone affected by this tragic event.] 

While there are principled explanations as to how the Twin Towers were destroyed on September 11, 2001, we can all agree that WHAT happened DID happen. I will spare anyone who is reading this the details; one can easily research it online.  There has been much outrage and heated debate over this.  It is a result of the inflamed emotions of the collective.  Why is that?

Amidst the chaos of the modern day, there could be a viable answer. Again, the civil unrest in the world, particularly prominent in the USA, needs no indulging here. Simply put, many folks are getting way too “thin-skinned,” invasive, entitled, and vocally immature. Instead of digressing, I thought to share what I have come across recently. It is not a new concept. 

The Fourth Turning (1997) by William Strauss and Neil Howe explains history repeats itself in four cycles or "turnings" (each lasting about 20 years or more): The High, The Awakening, The Unraveling and The Crisis. Each cycle goes in tandem with the generational archetypes. The four cycles are a part of a larger cyclical “saeculum” aka “a natural century,” before repeating the whole thing again. It is important to note that this book is somewhat “Western/US-centric.”  

According to the book and recent podcasts from the remaining living author Neil Howe, we have been in the Fourth Turning of the Millennial Saeculum since around 2005. That to me makes sense, since there has been one crisis after another (e.g., Great Recession, COVID-19 pandemic, War in Ukraine, increasing toxic political and racial divide in the USA, etc.). When we will get out of this, in all maturity, is entirely up to us. We need to stop pointing fingers, and get to work on ourselves—one day at a time. 

AMOR FATI 

Thank you and good night.

Wednesday, August 30, 2023

Once in a Super Blue Moon...

“Freedom's just another word for nothing left to lose.”

-Janis Joplin

I know the title of this blog is a bit cheesy and cliché, but I couldn't resist lol.  

I did manage to see that Super Blue Moon.  It was so big and bright; like a flashlight in the sky!  Unfortunately, my phone is a little messed up at the moment.  So, while I did take a couple of photos, I won't be able to post it here until that issue is resolved.  

In lieu of that, I have posted here a Supermoon collage I did back in 2016.  It's also in another blog I wrote on December 28, 2016 entitled, "Farewell 2016: A Tale of Two Sundays".  Feel free to check it out.  

The detachment to the insistence of seeing this rare event actually led me to the idea of how I can view it effortlessly.  Prior to that, I was looking all around town trying to get a glimpse.  All that effort got me a tad frustrated.  Or should I say, "Super" frustrated?  Jokes aside, it was when I let go of the whole thing, that I got the inspiration of just going to the balcony on the top floor.  And there it was when I arrived; as if it was patiently waiting for me the whole time.   

What a wonderful evening and lesson I received.  I'm so grateful for that!

AMOR FATI

Thank you and good night.

Tuesday, August 1, 2023

Going for Double: Our GSD Turning 24

On September 24, 2011, our beloved family member passed away at the age of 12, in the comfort of our home.  He was a very beautiful German Shepard.  We all had many adventures, whether each of us individually with him or all together in celebration.  He was born on August 1st, 1999.  This means that, if it were possible, he'd double his age today, turning 24.  

As many may or may not know, we are in the period of the Supermoon; so, emotions and inspirations are quite heightened.  Perhaps this is why I decided to write a tribute to one of my best friends I've ever had.  I still can't believe it's been 12 years since he transitioned.  And yet, today I feel his loss so deeply.  My grief is definitely intensified.  It's greater than I have ever felt in so many years.

So too are the happy feelings due to fond memories.  He was my non-human training partner, during the time I was really into competing in Olympic-style taekwondo fighting, back in the late 1990's to early 2000's.  We would run for miles from our house to a lake, located up a very long hill.  Next, we would run around the ENTIRE lake, before heading back down to run home.  When we got home, I'd make us smoothies and food.  Then, we would watch Iron Chef.  

[FYI: I tried to find more pictures of him, so the collage below will have to do for now.  The one to the lower right is his last picture.  It was taken the day before he died.  If more turn up and I decide to upload them later, you'll see them here.]

I miss you, old friend.  I seriously thought I heard you calling for my attention today...

I love you, Truffie.  Thank you for being my best friend.

AMOR FATI

Thank you and good night.

P.S. How he got his name "Truffie" was when we just adopted him, he was but a puppy, with a nostril area that looked just like a dark chocolate truffle.  :-) 

P.P.S. That's "T-r-u-f-f-i-e".  The last part, "i-e", symbolizes "in essence".

Tuesday, July 4, 2023

Happy 4th of July: Happy Birthday, America

If you're in the USA, you may have had a chance to celebrate Independence Day today.  With the lure of backyard BBQs, family gatherings, and displays of fireworks; it's no wonder the tradition has carried on for generations.  

You might have noticed that in the title, I didn't say, "Happy Birthday, USA".  That's because on July 4, 1776, when the Declaration of Independence was commemorated, there were still the 13 Colonies; of which began the process of officially formulating what we now know as the United States of America.  It began with Delaware on December 7, 1787 and has so far concluded with Hawaii on August 21, 1959.  Therefore, while Wikipedia may infer the establishment of the USA on that date, that is not entirely accurate, as I have stipulated previously.

While this may be a happy time for some Americans, it wouldn't surprise me if it is also a somber reminder for many of us of the severe defrancising of Native Americans, that continued during the entire development of this country, and carries on to this day.  This is not to trivialize the enslaved Africans, the migrant Latinos and the marginalized Asians, among many others who laboured here to the benefit and in the name of industry.  One could argue that if it weren't for what happened, future immigrants seeking a better life wouldn't be able to realize and capitalize on a true system of enterprise.  Valid as this point is, it doesn't change our country's dark past.

[Side note: The misnomer of Native Americans being called "Indians" as a common place term, to the point where even many have considered themselves as such, is the engineering of undercurrent hypnotism; designed to further psychologically oppress the conquered.  This has nothing to do with being politically correct.  Someone took a wrong turn, did not end up in India, and called the natives by the wrong name.]

I'm not saying don't enjoy the 4th of July.  As long as it is done in a way that doesn't hurt others and our planet, I'm cool with that.  How do I feel about this holiday?  In the risk of sounding unpatriotic, this is one of my least favourite times of the year.  Who wants to be woken up all night to the sound of fireworks, right?  If anything, there should only be a spectacular fireworks show, conducted and organized by various cities across the country, thus keeping people safe and mitigating air and noise pollution.  So far, it appears the only folks that are concerned are the fire department, the medical sector, the environmentalists, and people like me, who want to get a good night's sleep (along with, of course, concerns of our planet and our mental health).  Just don't point fingers when Lunar New Year comes around; that would be an ethnocentric double standard.

AMOR FATI

Thank you and good night.

P.S. The photo to the right was the actual carefully selected model for the Statue of Liberty, of which the sculpture was dedicated to the USA from France on October 28, 1886; over a hundred years after the Declaration of Independence.

Wednesday, June 21, 2023

Happy Summer Solstice

"You never try to create fruit.

You nurture the root;

Fruit will happen." 

-Sadhguru

Firstly, I wanted to acknowledge Juneteenth that happened a couple of days ago on June 19th, 2023.  The ONLY reason the emancipation should have never taken place, is because slavery should have NEVER taken place.  No slavery, no emancipation.  It is a barbaric practice at best.  This federal holiday to me is a solemn reminder of where humanity should never re-visit; and to allow the continued healing by keeping that shit in the rear-view mirror forever!

Now onto the Summer Solstice, the 1st Day of Summer.  This season brings about the contrast of a playful nature, along with the frustration of things unrealized in the timeline in one's mind.  The inflamed emotion of frustration could come from the heat and/or a psychological state of conflict between work and play.  However, we can see frustration in a good way.  Many times, these feelings are followed by a breakthrough of some kind.  This also means that we care about what we are trying to accomplish.

May we enjoy the journey, both in work and play; to find that balance.  Have a great summer, Everyone!

AMOR FATI

Thank you and good night.

P.S. 6/22/23: Happy Dragon Boat Festival!  端午節快樂!  :-) 

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dragon_Boat_Festival

Sunday, June 18, 2023

Happy Father's Day

“I chose to have children. They owe me nothing, I owe them everything.”
-Elon Musk

I originally was going to just post a blog around the time of the Summer Solstice, coming up this Wednesday.  However, I feel compelled to write a couple of lines here on this day, which in most parts of the world has come to an end anyway.

There were many slogans today, such as, "To all the dads out there..." and other variations thereof.  

I'm going to retort regarding such a commonplace yet naïve statement.  We live in a world where the celebration of a day, like Father's Day brings about rosy and infallible images of a biological father doing no wrong.  If you read the word "biological", you may already know what's coming next.

Just because someone got someone pregnant, doesn't make them a good father.  Even being around to take care of the mother of the child (or perhaps children, if there are twins, triplettes, etc.), and help raise the child(ren) doesn't make that person a good father.  We can even go to the far extent, and say that THINKING they are a good father does NOT make them a good father.  

Why?   

While, given the attempt to parent a child or children is better than abandoning one's post to civil obligation, doing such things in and of itself doesn't necessarily bring about the RESULTS of them turning out to be the "good people" we want them to be.  The whole debate about what is a good person in this context will need to rest in perhaps another blog.  Speaking about that, parenting does not make one a good person.  Since they brought a new living being into this world, it is their DUTY to raise the child or children to the best of their ability, even if it means raising them WRONG.  

So, "To all the dads out there", best of luck.  Don't fuck this up!

AMOR FATI

Thank you and good night.

P.S. If one wishes to bear the burden of judgement and assumption based on what I wrote here, just know I won't lose sleep over it; those who engage in such thinking might.  ;-)

P.P.S. I'm willing to even debate about it, though I won't be offering any money to participate lol. 🤣

P.P.P.S. 6/19/23: Happy Juneteenth!

Monday, May 29, 2023

Memorial Day

It's 3pm PST.  

It is asked of us to give a moment of silence, if possible during this time.  

If not now, then whenever we can.  

We thank those who gave their lives for this country (regardless if we agree or disagree with the reason).  

It is the intent to do something noble with one's life.  For many, they have paid the ultimate price.  

For that, I offer my sincerest gratitude.  

AMOR FATI

Thank you and good night.

P.S.:

'Is This Patriot Enough?': Asian American Official Shows Military Scars, Condemns Racist Violence  https://youtu.be/zTJa_SwHcTE

Sunday, May 14, 2023

Happy Mother's Day, Mommy!

 "Do not feel lonely, the entire universe is inside you."

-Rumi

Today, I wanted to offer a special tribute to you, Mom.  You molded the minds of two young adults, when our dad left us.  You were there during the crucial stages of our final development; where we would then soar from the nest out on our own.  

In the last couple of weeks or so, I've noticed how damaged our people are.  Maybe it isn't my duty to engage in their affairs.  However, I feel that if I can lend some feedback to those who are receptive, and live the best life I can, perhaps those who benefit will stand with their heads upright with less shame. 

I'm fortunate that you taught us these principles, as you navigated successfully through life and led by example.  I resolve to pay it forward, through my constant improvement and progression in this lifetime.  At this stage, I don't need recognition for the betterment of anyone.  While it would be nice, it's certainly not required for me to feel that my life is worthwhile.

Your silent confidence is all the benchmark I need.  For that, I am grateful.  Here's to moving forward.

AMOR FATI

Thank you and good night.

P.S. The collages within this collage are from past Mother's Days, just FYI.  Some of the non-collage picts also depict the same soiree; just different periods and venues.  It's been absolutely wonderful to celebrate this day with you all across the country over the years.  :-) 

Tuesday, April 11, 2023

A Once in a Lifetime Milestone: On Turning 50

 "Forgiveness is giving up the hope that the past could be any different."         Oprah Winfrey

                                          "Hurt people hurt people."                                            Rabbi Yehuda Berg

             "Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a harder battle."                      Plato

    "A kind word and forgiveness is better than charity followed by hurt."          Quran 2:263

"Then Peter came up and said to him, 'Lord, how often will my brother sin against me, and I forgive him?  As many as seven times?'  Jesus said to him, 'I do not say to you seven times,  but seventy-seven times'.''                                     Matthew 18:21-22

I wanted to start this blog entry with a quote or two on the theme of forgiveness, kindness and compassion.  However, I came across so much good stuff, I decided to put them all here.  I figured this is a special blog, so why not, right? 

Today, I have officially surrendered my "49er" jersey (an American football reference), and have embraced living on planet Earth for half a century.  Saying it like that makes me sound ancient!  Jokes aside, I did have some anxiety in the beginning, as the day was approaching.  After my therapy session yesterday morning, I have a better perspective as to why I was feeling like that and how to let go.

What I have learned in my short time here, especially very recently, is that forgiveness truly does set one free.  I only knew the concept academically at best; that it was a good thing.  It was always my view that forgiveness, kindness and compassion lets the person who hurt you (or at least tried to hurt you) "off the hook."  Nothing could be further from the truth.  It let's YOU off the hook.  That hook being our attachment to our comfort zone of negativity, resentment, comparison, dissatisfaction, narcissism, and sheer misery.  

Today, I'll make it both productive and fun.  I plan to continue my grind, while practicing self-care.  I'm thinking maybe a haircut, buy some running shoes, look for a park that has a pull-up bar, eat some tacos (it's also Taco Tuesday), and hit up a bar for some drinks with some new friends I've made, since moving to my new place.  While I won't reveal my goals and what I want to achieve, I can tell you that all the things that have happened or didn't happen to or for me, has prepared me for my new chapter to unfold.  I am grateful for that!

May we all embrace change, the challenges, and the rewards that comes with it.

AMOR FATI

Thank you and good night.

P.S. This is my haircut that I got today from a local barbershop, in case anyone is wondering what I look like now lol.

Friday, March 10, 2023

Majoring in the Minors

“The nice guys are all over there, in seventh place.”

 -Leo Durocher

[Baseball Manager for the Brooklyn Dodgers, quoted in 1946, where the etymology eventually rendered into, "Nice guys finish last."]

I hope we have all recognized International Women's Day, as well as March as Women's History Month.  I know it's a government issued acknowledgement of one day and one month.  It's like Mother's Day, where sons and daughters will be attentive to their mothers for that one day.  Needless to say, yet I'm going to say it anyway, we should honour and be kind to the women our lives everyday and all the time, if possible.  

Now, we are human, and make mistakes.  However, the overall theme reigns true.  

We live in a world where men are increasing getting weaker in both character and moral compass.  In addition, men are STILL getting paid more for lesser quality work, while remaining dominate.  We would think by now, in this "modern" age that we would get our act together, and resonate in mutual understanding and respect.  We must do this without degrading ourselves into "people pleasing" territory.  

This doesn't just go for women, this goes for men too.  To be that "nice" guy; that agreeable guy, is so unattractive, to a great extent.  Personally, I'm working to step out of that role with force.  No one wants to be a "doormat".  Instead of being nice, I can proudly say that I'm kind.  Well, I think most of the time (i.e. those that have met me, and have interacted with me extensively can testify that I can be quite mean, when I feel I need to be).  Kindness is so different than being nice.  Maybe I'll save that topic for another blog entry.

While I'm on the subject of women, I'm going to be blunt.  Women can be so catty with one another.  I'm not saying all women are like that, though many are.  Men are less like that, though we are competitive because of our ego; many times to our own demise.  This doesn't make men better than women, nor am I making a comparison.  That's not the point at all.  Women can be real subtle at tearing each other down, if not overtly.  A crude analogy would be the "crab mentality".  This is where if one crab appears to be making an escape from the bucket a group of them are in, one or more will pull it back down.  I can say that holds true for certain groups, particularly the Asian community.  

Unless someone points out something clear and compelling for me to say sorry, I don't plan to apologize for my candor; because telling the truth, as I see it, is of the utmost respect for all those concerned.  

Here's to our strong women, who do more than men just be seen in the same light of "equality".  It is not equality, by no stretch of the imagination.

May we work to show kindness to our women.  May they continue to strive for progress, despite all odds, as life is an adventure in achievement.

AMOR FATI

Thank you and good night.

P.S. Below is a picture of my mom when she served as a Major in the US Air Force (stationed at Luke Air Force Base or LAFB in Arizona, where I spent a few years growing up).  This is someone who fought "tooth and nail" to get to where she's at.  [Side note: I mention "US Air Force" and not just "Air Force", because when the subject comes up, ignorant people will ask, "Was she serving in the US military?" smh]  My nickname for her is "Major Mom".  :-)

Sunday, February 26, 2023

Happy Birthday, Mommy!

 Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better.

-Maya Angelou

I do think we spent this day as well as we could have.  Along with making her signature version of a popular Burmese dish အုန်းနို့ခေါက်ဆွဲ (phonetically pronounced "ohn no khao swè" or "oh NO cow SWAY") aka Burmese Coconut Curry Chicken Noodle Soup, I took an Epsom salt hot bubble bath in the jacuzzi, and then we watched our routine shows of "Blue Planet", "Super Soul Sunday" and "60 Minutes", among others.  Since we were a bit far from the beach, we stayed in, and talked about many topics, mostly nature; like cranes and such.  I do remember driving her regularly to her radiology business in Oakland, CA, back in the day.  As we went by Lake Merritt, she would always comment on the ducks and what they were doing.  Such fond memories.  

Thank you for being our angel.  

I love you, Mommy!  :-)

Here's a collage of our time in Redondo Beach, which ended up being our favourite beach; out of visiting many.  

AMOR FATI

Thank you and good night.

Sunday, January 22, 2023

Happy Lunar New Year of the Water Rabbit 2023!

"A burnt cynicism is a moral improvement over a blind naivety."

- Jordan Peterson

Happy Lunar New Year, Everyone!

This time around we welcome the Year of the Water Rabbit. The Rabbit is the LUCKIEST of all 12 animal signs, according to Lunar Zodiac Astrology. It's also a symbol of inordinate prosperity, great opportunities, high intelligence, immense creativity and everlasting empathy. These characteristics are said to resonate throughout this time; especially for those who have been sowing, and taking right action during the Year of the Water Tiger in 2022.

[A random disclaimer before I go any further. I'm no expert nor claim to have extensive knowledge of astrology; though I do understand, there are those who truly do their due diligence in providing us their empirical study. This is where I gather my information from on a very basic level. For those who want to learn more about Lunar Zodiac Astrology, I recommend checking out Joey Yap's Youtube channel. He's been pretty spot on in the years that I've watched his content, as he offers realistic expectations.]

Towards the end of the Tiger year there were quite a bit of sudden deaths, including one of my favorite guitarists of all time: Jeff Beck. I had the privilege of seeing him in concert headlining with Stevie Ray Vaughan opening. It was during the release of his then new album, "Jeff Beck's Guitar Shop" (circa 1989 A.D.). What was strange was that days before these people perished, they seemed fine and healthy. While I don't have a solid answer for why things happened the way they did, it could be that Mercury was in Retrograde during the deaths. Luckily, the New Moon has arrived in Aquarius; also a Water sign. Like the Rabbit, Aquarians are known for their highly creative mind. This alignment in energies could prove in our favor. So now, in a sense, there is some calm after the storm. We can focus more on our tasks at hand. I wish everyone success and good luck this year!

AMOR FATI

Thank you and good night.

P.S. It was hard to find 魚生 (Yúshēng) where I currently am.  So, I got a sashimi salad with ginger dressing at a local sushi restaurant to ring in the New Year!  To learn more about this, here's the secure Wikipedia link: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Yusheng

Sunday, January 1, 2023

Happy New Year 2023: Pass the Black-Eyed Peas, Please

“Do not give what is holy to the dogs; nor cast your pearls before swine, lest they trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you in pieces.” 

Matthew 7:6

Happy New Year, Everyone.

Today, I fired up the grill, and cooked up some lamb chops (medium-rare, of course), that had been marinating in red wine and seasonings overnight.  Also with that, I made black-eyed peas simmered in bacon, along with sweet potatoes and veggie kabobs.  There was also a nice thick fresh cod fillet, that I buttered with garlic and parsley, foiled en papillote, and added to the grill.  

It was a nice quiet day.  

I managed to keep my commitment to silence today.  It was challenging, but I did it.  I think doing this every now and then really does wonders for the turbulent mind.  At first, I really felt the strong urge to speak.  As time went on, the urge, while still there, became less and less prominent.  Right now, there's a sense of stillness.  I don't count writing for now; just the use of my voice to speak, even if it's talking to myself.  

The word for this year for me is RESOLVE.  This means promising oneself that they will never give up on themselves and what they are aiming to achieve.  May we all have resolve this year; one that enriches and does not impede on others.  We can all afford to be kinder to one another, and more importantly, be kinder to ourselves.  It is a new era, where the division that has run amuck may get worse before it gets better.  However, this is necessary for the calm after the storm.  We must trust the process to protect our own sanity, if we are to survive and thrive.  

AMOR FATI

Thank you and good night.