Definitely a Christmas to remember! Our marketing team was pushing to finish up a record breaking sales goal and we did it! I got promoted to director and my friends also moved up to their desired positions, all with handsome Christmas bonuses to boot.
It was a great feeling to run during the Holidays.
A lot of people reading this will consider it absurd and perhaps even greedy. "Why don't you just spend time with family like normal people?", they may interject.
First of all, I did spend time with my family. As a matter of fact, I roasted the Holiday turkey!
Second, just to be clear, greed is wanting more than what you are willing to put work toward. We were willing to work. As for "absurd"...imagine our lives and it is "Christmas" everyday. I'm not talking about winter and maxing out our credit cards, as we bombard the malls for last minute shopping.
I'm talking about the spirit of giving and the joy of being alive. What if we could capture the precious moments of our lives, without worrying about bills, our boss, vacation time, etc.?
This is what we are fighting for. We were taking one of many steps toward a lifelong adventure in achievement. From the prosperity that comes forth, will be not only have true freedom, but the abundance to give to mankind. If you call that greed and absurd, then I'm guilty as charged!
I used to hate Thanksgiving because, in my immediate family especially, there were always arguments or some kind of disturbance during this time. I would be so jealous of other families that had joyful gatherings.
I'm so happy and grateful now that, even though there were "ingredients" that could have led to a heated dispute, I have minimized my participation of such energy. I say "minimized" because I still have a long way to go in terms of always being the bigger person in these type of situations.
What changed? My inner world. Until the day I no longer engage in the piety, I will continue to seek the inner peace to do so. I will do my best to engage in activities and thoughts that make me better, so I can help others do the same.
Today, I made a wish at 11:11am. From what I understand, to reveal your wish is supposedly bad luck or something. I figure, why risk it, right? :)
What I can say is that it deals with making a contribution to mankind. It will definitely be an innovation the world has never seen, as of right now. The impact will be so great that it will change many lives for the better for generations to come.
Who knows? Maybe someone might beat me to it. In which case, I will either join them or work alongside them as a separate entity. Either way, the mission will be the same: to create true value through service.
Lately, I've been introduced to the concept of Rahu, from my dear friend, Drew Lawrence (https://www.drewlawrence.com). From what I understand, it means change. While, yes, change is the only permanent in the universe, what I think it is referring to is something more extreme.
A huge example is the death of Steve Jobs. He revolutionized the world for the better forever. His death is a reflection of changes that are now unfolding. Only time will tell what exactly those changes will be.
So the world is in a state of Rahu, according to what I've recently inquired.
What I've also learned is that each of us have our own Rahu period. It may come up multiple times in our lives and vary in length, anywhere from a few days to many years. If we really take a look, we can truly observe this awesome energy all around us.
Rahu can be both good or bad. Change is never necessarily negative. If we recognize the lessons the period brings forth, we can prosper beyond imagination. Those that ignore the signs and simply dismiss change as a type of misfortune, will suffer devastating consequences.
As long as we are in this existence on Earth, we should learn to embrace change, so that we can take advantage of the clues. Abundance is our birthright. However, opportunity and the keys to success and happiness are often shrouded in difficulty and hardship.
Steve Job's death happened 11 days after Truffie's in the year ending in 11. Our family adopted Truffie at 11 weeks old and I am born on an 11th day. Coincidence?
Today was the day that our dear family member and German Shepherd, Truffie passed away in his sleep.
He was 12 years young.
I can't describe the depth of pain I feel at this very moment. I don't think it has really sunken in yet. Perhaps I'm still in shock.
We will bury him tomorrow morning in his favorite spot in the backyard. It's where he used to bark at neighboring dogs and imitate the sound of a fire engines as they went by.
He was a very active and intelligent dog. I sometimes thought he was a human trapped in a dog's body.
From the time he was a pup with those lovely, little button hook ears until his remaining days on Earth, he has always captured our hearts.
We named him Truffie, because his muzzle, when we got him at 11 weeks old, resembled a chocolate truffle.
We thought the name Truffie would be more endearing that just truffle or truffles.
I can't thank him enough for all he has done for me. I have become a stronger and more compassionate person because of him.
He has certainly brought our family together.
He lived a very lucky and extremely happy life. We are proud to have provided that for him.
He was a confidant, a loyal training partner and, most of all, my best friend.
I will miss him dearly, as will the rest of our family.
September 11th, 2001 will be a day no one in the world will ever forget. The invincible became vincible. As the economy took a dip, people also questioned their own security. I remember my dad yelling at me to move to China, where he still currently resides. Sounds pretty ridiculous, right? At the time, it did.
Now? Doesn't sound like a bad idea anymore. As we bow our heads in reverence on this day, we also need to ask ourselves some real heavy questions. If you've noticed, our country has been on an economic decline ever since, for the most part.
So what questions should we ask? If the economy doesn't look like it's really getting better, shouldn't we take a look around for opportunities to thrive? I attended a trading class the other day and some of the faculty were talking about moving to Singapore in a few years. Is it unpatriotic? I don't think so. After all, if everyone was so patriotic hundreds of years ago, there really wouldn't be a United States of America, would there?
What about those that don't want to leave, is there still hope? Many claim that the US will be a 3rd world country in the next 15 years or sooner. We also must ask ourselves, if we were to stay, can we still thrive?
Without complicating the issue, one must look at history. During every recession, there have been people that have prospered. This is not at any person's expense. It was simply that these individuals knew what to do during these times. So if we can learn from those that have had success during our country's darkest periods, wouldn't that be helpful?
Of course! So what was one thing that stood out among these wealthy folks? It was that they understood true supply and demand. Not just on a national scale, but on a global one. I won't go over any case studies here, because I feel we are all intelligent enough to inquire that on our own. Not only that, I didn't want to stray from the big picture.
Now comes the biggest question, what is the current demand? Not just for the US, but for the rest of the world? What if there was a way to supply this ever growing demand? Wouldn't we logically succeed and help others to also do so? While it does make sense, we as humans unfortunately overcomplicate things. Our thoughts and beliefs has led us to this very point in time. If we aren't happy with our results, shouldn't we be open and listen to a possible solution?
Last quarter of 2011 will have no quarter for those that don't invest into themselves. I spoke to many people today regarding a project and resources that will lead to financial freedom. It boggled my mind, at first, to hear the excuses, as just the other day these same people were complaining about their finances, relationships and health.
Then...it hit me. I was one of those people. I must have compassion and see all the positive and wonderful things that can come out of the resources they have. They can live an extraordinary life! After all, if my mentors didn't do that for me, I wouldn't have a paradigm shift and a new found energy for working towards my dream. Who was I to write off anybody? I should help them. However, we can not help people who truly don't want help.
These are the same people that not willing to truly stretch beyond their comfort zone, so they can expand their eventual realm of comfort with abundance. Tomorrow after a night of "facebooking" (yes, that is now a verb), they will go to work or work on something that deep inside they know is dead-end.
Now, if it's a passion they have, like working at a youth center, that's awesome. I'm talking about things people do just to make money (only to get taxed more should they decide to get a second job). The people I'm referring to had no passion in their voice. I know they are above that and deserve better. I truly see greatness in them.
We are all worthy to get the things we want. Why play it so miserably safe when we only got one life? Let's not beat ourselves up over all the wrong choices, regrets and mistakes that we made. What we have is not years of failure, but years of experience. A really good friend and mentor recently said that. I'm really glad he did.
Lately, I feel that I'm in for the fight of my life. As challenges and tests from the universe arise, I focus on my reasons and my mission. The pain of adverse experiences don't go away; however, with my purpose in mind, it keeps me grounded while I go through them.
One of my major obstacles recently is feeling misunderstood. While everyday, I am working hard towards my goal, it's as though I'm the only one who sees it. This may not necessarily be true at all. It's like the jedi master Obi-Wan telling Anakin, "Be mindful of your thoughts. They do betray you". I feel the universe is testing my emotional intelligence for later abundance and prosperity.
While it is true we attract what we think about, we mustn't always see bad events and circumstances as a negative thing we attracted. This is especially true if we are aligned with positive thoughts and actions toward our desires. What we have attracted in this case is a series of events and circumstances, some good and some bad, that lead to what we really want. I call the bad ones "tests", as I mentioned earlier.
Knowing this, I still find myself slipping occasionally into my old ways of negative thinking. This happens especially when I've tried and tried and tried again and again to get a project off the ground, and there are no results at all. My good friend Hector once said, "If this is happening, then ask, 'What am I doing wrong?'". As simple of a concept it is, I had never thought of that!
Life can be very distracting. With family, circumstances and drama, we can be very well consumed by it, like I was. Thanks to another friend, Joe, he reminded me to "tune out the static". It's going to be there regardless but don't ignore the negative. We must handle it, but don't dwell or focus on it.
Sometimes, our true friends tell us things that we don't feel comfortable with. In the end, if the intention is good and it's parallel towards real progression, we should accept it and even embrace it. This is another test of our humility for later abundance and prosperity. I got pushed in the pool. It's now time to sink or swim!
The reason for the title of this blog is based on the date 7/11, eluding to the 24-hour convenient store 7-Eleven and a certain mindset we should all develop. This is a reminder that those that are fixed in their ways are no longer growing, and will continue to reap the limited crop that they sow, if they are so lucky to reap any at all.
This is crucially different from standing firm on good values and high ethical standards. Those are constant for those that achieve greatness or on their way to achieve greatness.
As we are a little over halfway towards the year, let's ask ourselves if we have truly progressed. Is it the "same ol', same ol'", or have we reached past the constant busy-body socializing in an attempt to drown out real issues in our lives?
As the economy in this country is still looking to pick itself up, we need to better educate ourselves in money matters to secure our financial sanity. I am reading and researching to be in the constant "know" of what is really going on, so I don't leave my life to chance, as the majority do.
Let's be always open and do our due diligence, to ensure a prosperous future and an accumulation of abundance we can pass on to our children with pride. Don't be a among the sad casualties that lead a mediocre life and pass on debt to their children, like so many that cross their fingers, hoping to win the weekly lottery as an actual financial strategy.
As I hear the fireworks from my room, I reflect for the first time on what this day truly means. Yes, of course, I've been aware that the 4th marks independence of this country. I'm thankful for those that stood up for what they believed. While this nation is not perfect, as I have experienced, it still represents the indomitable spirit against all odds. In many ways, I see that time period as a sort of David and Goliath story, as the underdog prevailed to free his people from oppression.
What I'm talking about is personal freedom beyond that of living in "the land of the free and the home of the brave". There are many that will go to work tomorrow and return to an existence they are not happy with. The saddest thing is that nothing will be done about it and they will fade from this Earth, not knowing true freedom. What life is it to live day after day, year after year and not progress? I cringe sometimes when I ask, "How's everything?" and the person replies, "Oh, same old" or something like that.
I'm so happy and grateful that I am at least aware of what needs to change in order to progress. This is the beginning of true freedom and true happiness. In the Declaration of Independence there is a phrase "the pursuit of happiness". Anyone who has achieved a certain level of concrete success understands this: the actual pursuit IS happiness. To progress in life's journey is to move forward and help as many people as possible along the way. This is what it means to enjoy our lives and experience life's lessons, so that we can leave the world better than we found it.
Now some people are NOT interested in this quest for freedom, thus true happiness. That's fine by me. However, there is a grave statistic that records over 90% of those lying on their deathbed regret not taking the risks necessary to make life truly meaningful for them. This is not to say that they don't cherish their loved ones and the good they may have done. It's just too obvious from this survey that what is "normal" doesn't pay true dividends to the soul in the end.
There are no accidents on the road of life. Everything in our journey is meant to be. This philosophy has kept me sane especially these past couple of weeks, as I have met challenge after challenge. The universe tests us, much like if we want to get in shape, we must endure the pain of exercise, among other things. Tests mold us to become the person to attract what it is that we want.
So now, the million dollar question: what do we really want? If we don't what we want, how do we expect to ever get it? Many of us have vague ideas of what we want, but never solidify it in our minds and take methodical action towards its attainment. Why? Perhaps it's not feeling worthy enough, the fear of failure or maybe the fear that when we do get it, we will feel unfulfilled.
As for me, I was always baffled at the reason why I would be on my way to achieving success on a particular project, but manage to lose the momentum, revenue, resources and relationships necessary to continue. I would build marketing teams and establish clientele bases, only to have it almost completely dissolve just as quickly. This would repeat itself for years. It was so frustrating. I was so close to giving up so many times. Now, I'm glad I didn't. I see why I went through all those experiences.
It was to lead me to this moment in my life. In my last blog, I spoke about a book, Secrets of the Millionaire Mind. I'm very certain that if I came across this book any sooner than I did, I probably would have passed it on the shelf. It was all my trails and tribulations that helped me to understand the contents in this read. I was searching for answers, and could identify with the situations and thought processes addressed.
All in all, for the first time, I began to open my eyes to everything I have ever done: my choice of relationships, my money decisions, my emotions, etc. I began to take inventory and noticed a common theme: opposites in conflict and I was caught in the middle.
On a conscious level, I've always wanted to make massive amounts of money, and to be in a healthy relationship. I've always wanted to travel the world and to take care of my mom. What I realize now is that on a subconscious level, it might quite well be the contrary. I'm now aware that my mind was programmed with mixed feelings about happiness, success, abundance, money and relationships.
The proof was too obvious. Although I wanted my business to thrive, I made bad decisions with my money and with my interactions with people. As a result, I would consistently lose both. I've always wanted to be in a wonderful relationship, but made choices that were the opposite. Who would want a money draining, drama queen that monopolizes all your time? I did...unconsciously.
You see, growing up, my parents had a tense relationship. They would tell me that even though they constantly argued about money, that we were at least good people. Pardon me, but what the fuck is that suppose to mean? What correlation is there between having money and being a good or bad person? While sure, one could point out numerous examples of those who are wealthy because they are good people, but that's not what I'm getting at.
That particular statement means that people that struggle with money are good people, while people with money are the evil ones that make the good struggle (e.g. bosses, owners of credit card companies, etc.). I realize now that my parents were programmed to live in lack of relationships, money, abundance and happiness. Also, it comes to no surprise that my parents eventually bitterly separated and haven't spoken to each other for a decade. They weren't intentionally trying to feed me that type of subconscious programming. They didn't even know what they were saying!
Now, I love my parents. I know they didn't mean any harm. It just gives me great relief to know that I am now aware of the reason I am where I am. Provided, yes, I am appreciative of all the good that is currently in my life. However, heaven forbid I go through another ten years of doing what I was doing, only to get what I'm getting, which is nowhere near where I want to be! I can actually FIX the crazy cycle that kept me wanting to throw in the towel, time and time again!
This book was recommended to me at the right place, the right time and from the right person. That's why I believe there are no accidents on the road of life. I am commited to change my subconscious programming and demand of myself to make my life an adventure in achievement. Obviously, this won't happen overnight. I understand this will take time. However, I feel that in the end, even if it takes me years, I know that the effort will result in a shortcut toward where I want to go and who I want to become.
Lately, I've been inspired by so many different energies: change, appreciation, attraction, hope, disgust, tolerance, frustration and anger. I'm so fortunate that I've made conscious efforts to pull myself in a positive direction. No matter if my feelings are negative or positive, I am proud that I strive towards bettering myself and those around me.
In fact, I have been reading a phenomenal book called Secrets of the Millionaire Mind by T. Harv Eker. Now, I have read many books and attended many trainings pertaining to money matters and personal development. While all those were great and I don't regret engaging in all those activities, I feel that this book really speaks to me. I'm now beginning to understand what builds my self-image, my decisions, my feelings and my results. There's always a reason behind everything we feel and everything we work for.
In the next upcoming weeks, I will continue to read this book and apply its principles. I am willing to challenge any limiting beliefs I've ever had my entire life. Sincerely, I have been enlightened by this book and suggest for everyone to get it. I strongly urge it especially for those who work hard, like myself, but many times feel that the wheels of our life's progress are spinning in place.
Today, we went to have Sunday Champagne Brunch at a nice community golf resort in Alhambra, CA. Life seemed slow yet pleasant. My mind was in the present moment. Sometimes, I forget, in the constant hustle and bustle of everyday life. But today was different and I am glad.
I'm so happy and grateful that my mom is still here with me. Not everyone is this fortunate. I've been blessed with a wonderful life. No, it's not perfect and there are many challenges that I face, however, I appreciate all of it. My mom is my motivation to strive for progress and achievement.
The type of business I'm in allows me to thrive when I grow myself and serve others. When this happens enough, I will have time freedom, because I will have no money worries. I want to show my mom the world and experience as much as I can with her while she still can.
Sometimes, I feel sad that one day I will have to say goodbye to her for the last time in this existence. I want to know, when that day arrives, that in my heart that I did all I could to give her my best. I have her in my heart when life gets tough and there seems no hope in sight.
There were people in my life that recently have become a grave disappointment, at best. I still don't have the courage to forgive them. Of course, this will take time. In a way, I'm glad it happened, because it gave way for better people to enter into my life and brought my true friends and supportive family closer. Anger can be a positive emotion when its energy is channeled towards doing good and creating success. After all, isn't that what Frank Sinatra called the best revenge?
I do this for my mom. I can certainly use all the help I can get, like directing and controlling a powerful emotion, such as anger. This must be done with caution since anger stems from fear. Obviously, when I reach the point of time freedom, I will let it all go, for it's the mature thing to do.
I feel that things are coming together lately. However, I'm doing my best to make myself aware not to "jinx it". This unfortunately, has happened in the past. Before somehow, I've managed to self-sabatoge what could have been a real chance to progress in a very big way. I'm learning to trust the universe more in my daily action and worry less about the undesired result(s).
Let's illustrate this with an example. I was at my old school UC Berkeley last year to meet up with the director of the UC Martial Arts Program (UCMAP), Dr. Russell Ahn. He was interested in checking out my product line. While I was there, I had him sample the vanilla flavored meal replacement. He liked it and bought some along with a fat burner and a muscle/joint recovery supplement. What would have been a real good thing to do, at the time, was take a picture of him and I enjoying the meal replacement. I would then post it up on my facebook page and add credibility for the taekwondo world to see, thus potentially boosting interest immediately.
I was overconfident that he will simply be a continuing customer right away and that the Cal taekwondo team will get on the regiment. If that were to happen, then there would be plenty of time to take pictures. However, it was my overconfidence that led to temporary self-sabbatoge. I say temporary because I feel I can take a trip up there again soon to make further headway. It may not be the martial art world. Perhaps, I'll gain success in the referrals or even old friends and family in the area. Who knows?
The point is, there are many cases like these and worse where I underestimated the value of the moment, or was blatantly unprepared (no marketing material, for example), due to either an overconfident attitude or a nonchalant one. I'm doing my best daily not to lose those "inches" of opportunity to advance. I want to be in a position that will give me more credibility and value in the market place. I set forth a goal to acquire a promotion that will award me an article in a prestigious magazine. The deadline is in mid-July and though I'm working hard to attain this goal, I could be still self-sabatoging by having the "poor me" mentality.
This means feeling sorry for myself, since I've slaved away in an attempt towards a goal but not obtaining it. I must constantly tell myself I am worthy. I must constantly tell myself that success is attracted to me like a magnet. I can't doubt or condemn myself for past mistakes and current shortcomings or weaknesses. I must focus on the present moment, for that's all I truly know I have for sure. It's important to know my reason for reaching for this type of undertaking. Otherwise I will wither like a dying leaf, cowering at the very sight of opposition. I will only work on thoughts and actions that will override my negative programming. Let's make it happen!
I'm so busy these days, though I appreciate it all. Those that wished me happy birthday, I thank you so much. Friends come and go...then go forever into the ether. It is my fondess wish that we all pursue our dreams. Today, I did a booth for my health and wellness project. It just seemed so right, whereas when I was younger, I would have thought it an absurd idea.
I learned that until we find and truly embrace our mission, we won't be able to discover where happiness lies for us. We don't have to pursue it if we are in constant, desired motion by virtue of our mission and great journey called life.
Alignment of action towards progress is what I call true success. I remember everytime I was in the flow of things, time stood still and I seized to think. That blissful moment is the gap between thought. According to a great book I read, The Tibetian Book of Living and Dying, if we prelong that gap, we are in true meditation.
We don't know how long we have on this Earth. This doesn't mean stop living! We should do what is right and not worry excessively about tomorrow. According to another great book, The Bible, "Tomorrow has enough worry in itself". Strive for greatness. Let's make life an adventure in achievement!
In just a few days, I will be 38 years old. My first instinct was to reflect on all my failures and condemn myself for them. The reason for that impulse is because many of our negative experiences have a stronger emotional impact than our positive ones. Unless the positive experience was life changing or extremely intense, it's not etched in our memory like our negative ones. It's our emotional experiences that are planted deep in our subconscious, and thus shape our philosophy, self esteem and ultimately our experiences. If we aren't always aware of this, how do I sometimes catch myself?
I would say it's doing my best to observe my reactions and thought process. Educating myself is really the first step, like viewing the Jack Canfield video at the end of this blog. It's important to constantly flood ourselves with positive voices, because of our negative programming. Another great example is listening to Tony Robbins on youtube. It helps me reaffirm that negative is normal but just not successful. Also, I must keep the reasons why I do what I do in my consciousness (e.g. using a vision board). It helps as a constant reminder for obtaining prosperity and abundance.
Another thing is feeling worthy, which each and everyone of us should feel. I don't always feel this way. When I don't, I get a hold of something or someone positive to get myself back on track. This is critical! As Jim Rohn once said, "After all, you’ve only got one life, at least on this planet. So why not make it an adventure in achievement? Why not discover what all you can do and what all you can have? Why not discover how many others you can help and in the process how that can help you?"
One thing that most people do as time passes by is to remain the same. They get comfortable and say to themselves, it's ok. I'm very glad I've kept limited association with those that choose this for themselves. In extreme cases, we should even opt for disassociation. Condemning themselves, constantly complaining, blaming others and dwelling on all the so-called failures (instead of seeing them as learning experiences toward success) are all some of the symptoms of these people. While there are many reasons why a lifetime of mediocrity holds true for most, a main factor is not feeling worthy enough for success. In fact, the majority fear it. It's the oddest thing.
However, as strange as it may be, it's in our benefit to study this phenomenon. If we understand it in ourselves, we can heal others because we are healing ourselves. If we make our mission inclusive toward the betterment of others, we can never go wrong. We can't cheat in this department, no matter how discreetly we try. The minute we are selfish, we are no longer thinking about ourselves. What do I mean by that? Ever heard the term, "What comes around, goes around?". If we harm others by looking after our own interests, the universe is rigged in a way that makes sure the cost gets paid in full. The same goes true for including others in our mission and vision, in order to see our goals and dreams to fruition. Abundance and prosperity is sure to follow.
"You can have everything in life that you want if you will just help enough other people get what they want." -Zig Ziglar
Embrace change. It's the only constant. I watched a movie that I highly recommend, "Peaceful Warrior". It's a story about Dan Millman while he was on the Cal gymnastics team. More than just a sports film, it's a spiritual journey in self discovery. It also illustrates how to make the most out of every change that comes our way. I'll probably need to watch it a few more times. Seeing that couldn't have come at a better time, since I'm starting a new chapter in my life. I won't ruin the movie, so I attached a trailer at the end of this blog.
The sign Aries symbolizes new beginnings and new changes. It held true today. I met up with a powerful friend, Hector Flores. He gave me suggestions on how to improve my business, and also informed me of exciting changes that definitely work in my favor. Prayers do get answered! I was asking for a mentor and now I have one. I'm so appreciative for his kindness and understanding. It is true what they say, when the student is ready, the teacher will arrive. The timing couldn't be more perfect!
As we come to the close of the first quarter of 2011, I reflect on all that I've done. I am proud that I made a lot of progress in my personal growth, productivity and human relations. I learned to connect better with the people that I work with by being in the best energy that I can be. Of course, the best will be different when I'm having a good day vs. a bad one, however, it's now more consistent than ever.
I also learned to ground my emotions better by hanging out with people that bring out the best in me, like Hector Flores and Joe Chui. Reading and watching youtubes of successful people are also big contributors. We must literally bombard ourselves with positive messages and people, since we have years of negative programming and mind viruses.
Who I will become shall be better than who I am now. The long and hard journey still lies ahead but I will reach the oasis of financial freedom, that will allow me to fulfill my destiny. It is our birthright to overflow in giving, prosperity and happiness.
Now with a mentor, I look forward to the upcoming days, weeks and new quarter ahead. I mustn't stop, because I know there are a lot of people that are counting on me and are going to count on me, as we establish a bigger team. I'll continue to make a conscious effort to embrace change, for if I do, I will more likely see the good in every situation, even in the face of adversity. I will attract more opportunities and more great people into the organization, because I will become stronger, work harder and increase my awareness continuously.
Today was a good and productive day. The more I understand my purpose, the more I find that even mishaps have their place in the order of my life. Today reminded of a movie I recently watched called "The Adjustment Bureau". It's a film about destiny and how what is seemingly an act of free will isn't. Don't want to ruin the movie for anyone who wants to watch it. I found it entertaining.
Anyhow, my phone malfunctions this morning and I had to take it to the Verizon store to get it fixed. Before I left the house, I decided to grab a couple of copies of a newspaper in which I have an ad. Turns out, that the customer service guy, who helped me last year, happened to just arrive. We had lost touch, in which I claim full responsibility. The strange thing was I had thought about him the day before!
So as we were talking, he askes what I've been up to. I told him that I'm a member of the chamber of commerce and still working on my health and wellness project. It seemed that my subconscious planned for me to grab the paper from my house to show him my ad, which I did. It instantly gave me credibility. He mentioned that his girlfriend is looking to increase her cashflow and also looking to lose weight. We exchanged contact information and will be setting up something soon.
Later that day, I wanted to buy some mouthwash. The store that came to mind was Stater Bros. When I arrived, outside the entrance was a little girl scout with her mom selling cookies. As I was leaving, I approached this young entrepeneur, bought a box of tagalongs and began talking to the mom. Turns out she's been looking for work and claims she's excellent in sales (after all, she got her daughter doing it, right?). We exchanged contact information, and will be setting up something with her close to the end of the month, when she's back in town.
Of course, I had my fun also. After all, all work and no play makes Owen a dull boy, right? So I treated myself to a green Stella and corned beef sliders in celebration of the Irish tradition. I even wore green today. Everything seemed to fall into place pleasantly and nearly effortlessly. All my decisions seemed as if it was a part of a bigger design. The sun was out, everyone was happy and I wasn't stressed a whole lot, though I got a lot done.
I ended the evening with doing a phone strategy with Nick and how to help him expand to Texas and California. Actually the evening ends with writing this blog. No, it ends with checking my facebook, twitter and then making revisions on my blog. Ok, the work doesn't end, but it's enjoyable because it's part of progression. There's a purpose rather than a mundane routine of simply paying bills until we die. I continue to learn no matter if it's a good day or bad. I'm staying green. Cheers!
Today, I feel this is a new beginning. Of course, those that treasure life consider everyday a new start, if not every moment. However, I must say that this moment, today, is a the first chapter of a brand new saga of my life! Today marks the first step taken on the road to my true destiny!
So why do I make such a claim? From the time I woke until now, I stayed on track with my mission, as I do virtually everyday. So what makes this day different? Before, I've lived by only one word: Decision. Without it, you CAN NOT be happy...EVER! I don't care who you are! I also live by another word: Trust. Why do I bring this up? This term is more than just trust in myself and others. It is to indicate trust in the universe. As easy as it is to do this, very few people do it. Why? Perhaps it is their unawareness that it exists or their fear of the unknown. Or maybe they feel it's "too good to be true".
It's only too good to be true when we don't believe in the forces that are beyond ourselves, that are in reality in the palm of our hands. What do I mean? What seems to be "out of our hands" many times is actually within our control 100%. We attract everything into our lives, even the things we don't want. Have you heard the saying, "Money is a wonderful servant, but a horrible master"? This is also true for our universe because we create it with our thoughts, beliefs and actions. If we are a slave to paying our bills every month with little or no money to spare, then we are not working towards our prosperity that's waiting for us to grab ahold of. There's a great quote from my friend Hameed, "To predict the future, create it".
So now we get back to the all encompassing question, why do I trust the universe? It's because everytime I didn't and tried to exert too much control, I was unsuccessful in accomplishing not only my goals, but the goals and dreams of many. There is a ripple effect upon our every decision, emotion, thought and action. Today was different. It was very strange how I just had an epiphany as I was going about my day. I decided to allow the universe to do its job, while I did mine. Almost like magic, everything came into place like planned. I accomplished more today than I ever did. Situations and circumstances that weren't working out before, worked out. Amazing!
By releasing our goals to the universe with trust and working hard towards its attainment, we are actually in control. It's much like driving a vehicle to a destination. We don't have to need to know everything, like what exactly the car is made of or if the car seat is going to fall through the bottom of the car. All we have to is drive, and be aware of the car's function (like gas, tire pressure, etc.), as well as the road signs. Without trust, we become distracted with unnecessary worry and we may end up missing our exit.
There's an ancient folklore about a farmer that wished for harvest prior to "its time". He was so impatient that he pulled at the crops nearly uprooting them. He wanted everything to grow faster than it was. Incidently, as a result of the farmer's ignorance and greed, all his crops died because the field lost momentum. Just remember, we are worthy of greatness. It's a matter if we harness it or not! If we don't, we will stay in our comfort zone, and won't work aggressively to design our own life.
When we connect with others and increase the number of who we connect with, great things can happen. Today, I experienced my creativity at work. Once a month, I host a Taco Tuesday at Casa de Salsa with a social group, some who are my clients. Now, I know the owners through the chamber of commerce, and have sat down with them to ask for referrals for my business. Of course, I won't be a pain about it by constantly inquiring. However, I feel that increasing their business will create more leverage and voice the next time I do ask. In fact, I did a presentation for someone I met at a chamber event today at lunch at Casa de Salsa. He is also the person that's doing pest control for the restaurant. I will be talking with him and his wife over dinner at the same place. I know that if he gets started with me, he will get results and word will spread in the community, including the owners.
That same evening, I invited the school district and all the principals to Casa de Salsa, since I knew some of them from my participation at Principal for the Day. I bought the prinicipals and school district members a first round. At first glance, they may sound like an absurd and senseless move. For a brief moment, I actually thought that, but I committed myself to the idea anyway. I have to say, I'm so glad I did. I now have important people in the community that want to more about what I do. We will be setting up appointments in the upcoming weeks. I'm very eager to help all of them and the community at large.
Then like clockwork, the director of the chamber came with his wife and a friend. I offered to buy them a first round as well. This gentlemen is perhaps the most well connected person in the area. He greeted everyone that came and there was a sense of synergy. It was at that point I realized how extremely connected we all are! From the owners of the restaurant to the chamber director to the school district members, it was like watching a live puzzle being put together. I need to make a promise that I will make my way in futher into this network and make a difference so great that I won't have to "sell" my business. Many from this group will participate and urge others to do so, because of the value I give it. I can feel it!
I have a strong feeling that the network that I percieve is merely the tip of the iceberg. Just with one gesture alone, I've created a buzz. Rest assured that everyone will remember me from tonight and good fortune will come. I will continue my mission to manifest prosperity, so that I can inspire others to take action on their dreams. I'm very blessed that I have the opportunity to do something great. Without it, I will be just an ordinary person, living then dying. Some don't mind this but I do. Whoever comes on the journey with me, it's necessary that they don't settle for nothing less than what they deserve. We are all worthy of abundance, as it is our birthright! All we have to do is go get it! Tomorrow will bring a new adventure and I embrace the day ahead!
There are times when I forget for a moment why I do what I do. Yesterday was a perfect example. After I wrote last night's blog, I took out my "Why" card and read it. Today, I was back on track, making phone calls and setting up appointments. In fact, I got a customer today at a supermarket! I truly believe that when we stay committed and re-commit when we fall short, good things will happen to us. What also solidifies our reasons for staying on track are those we commit to that are also committed to us.
I got a call from Nick, one of my friends in New York I work with. His enthusiasm could be felt over the phone, as he updated about his business activity and progress. I asked him what was his inspiration. Without a moment's hesitation, he said his family. We then worked out a strategy for him and plan talk again later this week. It feels good being a part of designing someone else's success that is tied to our own. We all need causes bigger than ourselves to drive us to great achievement. When it gets lost, we owe it to our loved ones to rekindle that fire.
Tomorrow will be another busy yet enjoyable day, because I'm working towards balance in my life, in all areas: health, wealth and relationships. Even with yesterday, I still appreciate those moments. As long as I learn from adversity, my life will always be in progression. That is how we grow. I look forward to reflecting on all the good I've done near the end of the road. I appreciate that I'm able to add value to others, and that I have the resources to touch the lives of many, many more. I want to thank Nick for inspiring me to become more, so that I can have more to give to the world! :)
The title of this blog is not advice coming from me, but rather one of the Four Agreements. I must say that book gave me the courage to face my emotional demons and begin the healing process. Of course, it is far from over, but I can say that I'm spiritually, mentally and emotionally stronger than I've ever been.
Reflecting back on how I used to think and act brings about pain. It brings about pain because I harmed people around me. For example, my anger was so out of control sometimes, I would hurt people mentally and physically. In addition, I would smash wooden chairs and shatter plates all around the house. Though I'm proud to say I no longer exhibit this type of behavior, the inner anger will surface from time to time. For that reason, I opt to stay away from people and circumstances, at least as much as possible, that may provoke such feelings to arise. Instead, I look to hang around positive and encouraging people, which I feel so blessed to have in my life.
Reading the right books and being around the right people gave me the strength to confront my internal issues. I also was diagnosed with severe clinical depression and was heavily medicated for years. Though my suicidal thoughts would diminish, so would all my other feelings such as joy, happiness and love. The process of self-education and the power of association weaned me from my medication. As the cloud of sedation cleared, I was able to experience life again, this time more empowered.
I bring this up because today at training, there were those who shared similar struggles with depression and thoughts of suicide and how they were able to overcome. It was truly inspirational as I think of it now, though at moment, I was divided between listening to their stories and sinking into my own self pity. It seems that sometimes, negative thoughts and feelings appear almost out of nowhere. This time, I traced it back to something I've been struggling with for years: comparing myself with others. It appeared that a lot of people were doing better than me, as some were getting recognized for their achievements and feeling really good about it. At that point, I felt inadequate.
Don't get me wrong, I am happy for people's victories and love being around good people. So, what I was feeling is not be confused with jealousy. I had my own personal issue simply at that moment. Normally, I'm not this way. Logically, other people's success and happiness has nothing to any lack of my own. Nevertheless, I made a committment to myself that if I ever felt bad, I would introspect and resolve it. I would do my best.
As I sat in that room, my negativity nearly drained all my energy. Still, I was determined to stay focused on the training. Playing that part back in my mind, I realized I have the power to block out positivity. What I mean is that I was in a place completely surrounded by good energy and good people, yet I felt the opposite. Of course, usually I much rather be around positive people, because it gives me proactive contrast if I do feel bad. But at that moment, I found it exhausting to be there, and just wanted to go home. Sometimes, I don't realize how negative I am until I become aware of it later. It's much like an alcoholic that admits they are one, after finally becoming disgusted with themselves. It is at that point, that they are ready for change. What a glorious day! I'm so appreciative that I have developed the skill to be consciously aware of these types of thoughts and feelings.
So a question I asked myself was, "If I can block out positivity even though I'm surrounded by positivity, couldn't I exert the same power to block out negativity even though I'm surrounded by negativity?" The answer had to be "yes". Now, I just need to become stronger emotionally so as to solidify this belief in my subconscious. This does not mean I should seek out unfavorable situations, circumstances and people. Another question I asked was, "Can I develop the courage to allow positivity to affect me when I'm surrounded by positivity and discover positivity when I'm surrounded by negativity?" The answer again had to be "yes"! The last question I asked myself was, "If I allow positivity to affect me, will my actions produce positive results eventually, even if setbacks occur?" The answer had to be, without a shadow of a doubt, "yes"!
Our best is different from when we are feeling good than from when we are feeling bad. When my emotions and/or energy are low, I think of this agreement I have with myself and do my best. I'm very glad I did that today. If I didn't, I wouldn't have unveiled what I was supposed to learn. And even if I didn't do my best, for whatever reason, I would make a conscious decision to take responsibility, learn from my mistakes and take action on those adjustments. It was a great training today indeed!
As I was going about my day, I reflected on my life so far. I must say, it has been a good life and I appreciate it so much. I was an artist, a top chess competitor, an athlete, a professional musician, a model, a student and graduate of a pretigious university, an administrator and a site manager of a top educational program. Now, I'm an entrepenuer, a community advocate, a business professional, a traveler, an explorer and an author. What I inspire to become is a philanthropist, a prominent leader, an influential motivational speaker, a financial guru, a best seller and a household name. It's a blessing to know that my efforts in life have been progessive in my contribution to the world. I'm excited about the future. The present constantly unfolds and it's up to me to untap my potential.
What prompted me to reflect was an advertisement I was revising for the 42nd UC Open Taekwondo Championships. It's a national level competition, held annually at UC Berkeley, that is well known in the US and the world. Thanks to the wonderful coaching and training from my team captain, Jason Han and the rest of the Cal team, I was able to medal in full contact, black belt sparring competition two years in a row at the UC Open. They're also a major reason I was able to win 11 medals at national, state, regional and collegiate championships. The following year after I stopped competing, I designed the front cover of the magazine for the tournament. Now, a decade later, I am placing an ad in the program book. This is one of many examples of life coming full circle, on some level.
I am fascinated on how my life up until now are pieces to a puzzle that's leading to a masterpiece. Without me playing chess, I would not be associated with those who desire higher education. Without such friends, I would not have attended UC Berkeley. Without attending to UC Berkeley, I would not have fought on the collegiate taekwondo team. Without the martial art program and collegiate team, I would not have explored my artistic side. Without exploring my artistic consciousness, I would not have come across my professional music endeavor. Also, at this point in my life, I would not have come across the friend who will introduce me to a business that has taken me to many parts of the world. And finally without my business, I would not be placing an ad in the UC Open magazine. Of course, there are many more connections for other parts of my life, though I believe my point is made.
As I closed my eyes and meditated this afternoon, I visualized myself re-living my life up until now. It seems like a dream or even a different life altogether. I know I was there but it doesn't feel like I was at this present moment. I then envisioned my future and ways it could happen. If I am a successful entrepenuer, for example, I can give back in more ways than I do now. I can design a music studio and a martial art room for myself in my dream beach house. I can truly say "thank you" to my mom and dad for raising me, by allowing them to never worry about money or any sense of lack. I can make a name for myself, by giving all my money away to all the right causes and the right people before I leave this planet. It sure will be something.
As we pray for the people in Japan, I can't help but think about my attitude many years earlier. While I did find global catastrophies tragic, it never really hit home for me. I didn't feel that the forces of nature will ever head my way. After all, I live in California, right?
However, the tsunami did hit home for thousands of Japanese and our coast was on tsunami advisory. Even though I live about an hour from that area, the idea that nothing will ever really happen to me, in terms of natural disaster, was questioned. I mean, honestly, why would I believe in something that naive? Despite how ridiculous it sounds, I don't think I'm the only one who currently thinks this way.
As I saw the footage of the devistating forces, I was reminded how truly fragile we are. Even with that, there are different perspectives. One is to live in fear and another is to live in appreciation. We never know when we will be taken from this Earth. I truly cherish my life, as well as the challenges and many blessings that come with it.
A successful man told me on New Year's Eve never to piss anyone off. Though I do what I can, it's a simple principle that I still find hard to live by. Obviously, this person is where he is due to this rule of thumb, among many others. I suppose that's what separates me from him. At first glance, it seems absurd. How can we never piss anyone off? What if some people we cross paths with are attempting to take advantage of us? If we stand up to them, wouldn't we piss them off? The answer to these questions is one in the same: those that are looking to hurt others are already pissed off. Standing up to them is the right thing to do.
As I think more about this idea, I think of all the people in my life that really upset me from time to time. There's that occasional inner monologue, "If only they didn't act this arrogant and stupid, I'd have an easier time applying this concept!". It wouldn't suprise me if I was that arrogant and stupid person in someone else's mind. Hey, nobody's perfect, right? What I can say though is that I'm working on myself.
We are dealt the cards from the universe in this lifetime. We either play our hand or fold to circumstance. No, it's not like Texas Hold 'Em, where you can play another round. If we do fold, much like a person in the passenger seat in a moving car, we have little to no control of our destination. Also, in all maturity, we have no right to complain if we give up the privilege to take the driver's seat of our own life.
So, now I bring it back to those annoying people that are in most of our lives. What are we suppose to think? I feel that challenges are a means to allow us to grow from the experiences. Without growth, then we cannot achieve our destined path towards doing something great in this world. The seemingly negative people are a means to teach us learning lessons that will eventually benefit others. This does NOT mean spend our time with these people. Stay away from those that make us feel bad! We must, even if they are family and friends. I recently started applying this and I've been more productive and a lot less stressed out. In fact, my blood pressure is probably lower too!
What are indications of people that we need to limit our association with or, better yet, disassociate with? Those that, of course, make us feel bad. We can't hang around people that are extremely opinionated and feel that their way is the only and best way to look at things. Have you ever heard the expression "my way or the highway"? If they act and think this way, even unknowingly, don't confront them, just LET THEM BE. Also, let them go. Stay clear of these individuals. We can't change them. They can only change themselves.
On a side note, if you are reading this, you were meant to contribute immensely, perhaps beyond your own comprehension.
Many times, we feel that we are so insignificant in the big scope of the world we live in. We have a small self-image of ourselves. However, it is my belief, that if we accept our greatness, we will leave a legacy and leave this Earth a very happy person. The flurry of many saying "thank you" will exceed any monetary compensation we WILL receive as a result of adding that value to others. We will never achieve anything worthwhile without making sure we help enough people get what they want. In my business, it is crucial that we know what our organization wants. Of course, it's a two-way street. The people in the organization must at least speak up and express what they want. Without that, we can't help them achieve their desires to the full extent in which we would like. If we help them along the journey of life, our success is then realized.
Today was a great day here in California. It was productive as well as warm, sunny and simply glowing with joy. Just like the weather can affect our environment, our thoughts play a big role as to what kind day we are going to have. It's like a forecast. If we have negative thoughts, there's a chance of showers or even a thunder storm headed our way in our minds. By contrast, if we have positive thoughts, we will have nothing but sunshine in our heart and everything will seem to go our way.
While being "happy go lucky" seems to be a widely accepted concept, it is still not commonly practiced. If it were, ideally we would have no war, poverty or any extensive suffering. The truth is many of us have received negative programming from our friends, family, the media and society at large. It can certainly be argued that our loved ones do not intend to feed us such bad thoughts and feelings. However, the evidence of poor psychology exists in the world we live in, as the adverse effects reveal itself in the form of violence, greed, jealously, anger, sadness, etc. Of course, there are moments of positivity, as we see kindness and good deeds all around us, but for the most part, the majority are living in their own personal state of inner conflict and unhappiness.
Why am I bringing this up? It's because I fell into negativity and self-pity many times. Somehow, I was programmed to be unhappy, not knowing my true self worth. Perhaps not everyone is wired this way. However, it is an issue that we are starting to face as a whole through education (books like "The Secret", "Think and Grow Rich" and "As a Man Thinketh" are becoming more popularized). There are times when I catch myself being negative. It's been embedded so deep in my subconscious that I was no longer aware of it until recently!
Today was a great example. Even though the sun was out and the weather was nice, I almost had a mental thunderstorm! While presenting my business to a friend, who happens to be a fellow rotarian and chamber member, I started to think that I was wasting his time by trying to "sell him" health products. At one point in my discussion, I went into "autopilot", meaning because I did the presentation so much, I simply spoke without thinking (much like when you are driving somewhere). I mentally checked out, because in my mind, I didn't want to face what seemed to be inevitable: rejection.
After I was done, he liked what I was sharing and decided to purchase a month's supply advanced probiotics. Now, I'm used to selling at much higher volumes, so my first reaction in my mind was negative. But I managed to step out of my mental cloud that was about to storm and say to myself, "First of all, at least he bought something. Second of all, he has a great network within the community. If he likes his results, he will not only purchase more products, but will also refer many people that trust him in the area. He might even do the business with you later on down the road.".
So I was able to avoid having a bad day. It doesn't matter if there is unfavorable weather of any kind, having a good day or bad day is all up to us. We need to educate ourselves on emotional intelligence and find ways to find the good or at least learning lessons in each and every situation. Let's take that responsibility. It's not only for ourselves, but also everyone we come in contact with. We can truly make the world a better place if we check ourselves.
Life is full of obstacles. According to Napoleon Hill, author of "Think and Grow Rich", every misfortune comes with it a seed of opportunity. Let's plant these seeds in the soil of our mind, and allow them to grow into something beautiful so we can share it with others. Remember, next time our glass is at that halfway point, we should make sure to focus on it being half full, not half empty, so that we can savor things we're grateful for to the last drop!
I'm very pleased to have a comment on my first post, as well as a follower. Thank you, Geri for your comment and thank you, Joe for being the first to follow my blog. Upon Geri's request, I will speak about my experiences of being a "Principal for the Day".
The program was funded by the chamber of commerce in my local community, in which I am a member. The chamber of commerce is a group of local businesses that look to increase cashflow in there own business by creating comradery within and exchange products or services and/or referrals. According to wikipedia, "A chamber of commerce (also referred to in some circles as a board of trade) is a form of business network, e.g., a local organization of businesses whose goal is to further the interests of businesses. Business owners in towns and cities form these local societies to advocate on behalf of the business community. Local businesses are members, and they elect a board of directors or executive council to set policy for the chamber. The board or council then hires a President, CEO or Executive Director, plus staffing appropriate to size, to run the organization.".
Anyhow, I was delighted at the opportunity of going to a school, and taking over as a principal for just one day. It was an honor to serve Armstrong Elementary School in Diamond Bar, CA. The staff was extremely friendly and I got a chance to meet the real principal Cynthia Sanchez. That day, we had an event known as the "Eagle Walk", a community fundraiser for the school. I was so pleased to see all the children and parents get involved! Children were to run laps around a field. Each lap was awarded a donation from a sponsor, be it a parent or a friend.
I got a chance to visit every classroom, from K-6th grade, answering questions and interacting with all the children. They were all delightful and inspiring. I reminisced about my childhood and also became excited of the untold bright future of these young people.
In short, I'm grateful to be a participant of this program. It helps me stay connected with the community and understand their needs, and to see how I can help them through my own goodwill. By developing a relationship with everyone, I know that I can add true value through my interaction and what I offer in my business. I look forward to more events, more contributions and more ways of making other's life better.
By doing this, not only will our sense of self worth improve and not only will we improve the lives of others, but our deeds will return in a form of compensation that is more than we "put in". This is also called "karma" or for the scientific folks out there "cause and effect". It may be in the form of joy, cashflow or even better relationships. Perhaps it may reveal itself as all of the above and more. Whatever you seek in life, you will never receive until you have improved the lives of others. After a while, you will do good things because it simply makes you feel good and that's a great compensation, I feel!
Welcome to my personal website. The internet can be a cold place at times. My intention behind creating this site is share of myself: my hopes, my dreams and even my shortcomings. In doing so, I will build stronger relationships with my family, friends, colleagues, business partners and anyone else I interface with all around the globe, whether in person or online. I feel this is essential in establishing such connections.
You see, many of my friends and family have grown distant, only to be updated by their facebook status or an occasional phone call or text. It's no one's fault. That's just how life is. At least for me, I'm looking to change that.
In addition, I'm very much involved with my local community as a member of the rotary and the chamber of commerce. My website will also allow new people I meet to get to know me on a deeper level. In essence, this is for my future friends and family as well. I feel we are all connected. Somehow, we've forgotten.
In upcoming blogs, I will talk about my personal experiences, both good and the seemingly bad. All in all, I will share my life's lessons so that we can all learn, develop and grow as better people. While some of the topics I discuss are niche in nature, the underlying lessons to be learned are still widely universal. This statement will become clearer in later entries. Stay tuned and thank you!
