April Showers Bring May Flowers

In just a few days, I will be 38 years old.  My first instinct was to reflect on all my failures and condemn myself for them.  The reason for that impulse is because many of our negative experiences have a stronger emotional impact than our positive ones.  Unless the positive experience was life changing or extremely intense, it's not etched in our memory like our negative ones.  It's our emotional experiences that are planted deep in our subconscious, and thus shape our philosophy, self esteem and ultimately our experiences.  If we aren't always aware of this, how do I sometimes catch myself?

I would say it's doing my best to observe my reactions and thought process.  Educating myself is really the first step, like viewing the Jack Canfield video at the end of this blog.  It's important to constantly flood ourselves with positive voices, because of our negative programming.  Another great example is listening to Tony Robbins on youtube.  It helps me reaffirm that negative is normal but just not successful.  Also, I must keep the reasons why I do what I do in my consciousness (e.g. using a vision board).  It helps as a constant reminder for obtaining prosperity and abundance.

Another thing is feeling worthy, which each and everyone of us should feel.  I don't always feel this way.  When I don't, I get a hold of something or someone positive to get myself back on track.  This is critical!  As Jim Rohn once said, "After all, you’ve only got one life, at least on this planet. So why not make it an adventure in achievement? Why not discover what all you can do and what all you can have? Why not discover how many others you can help and in the process how that can help you?" 

One thing that most people do as time passes by is to remain the same.  They get comfortable and say to themselves, it's ok.  I'm very glad I've kept limited association with those that choose this for themselves.  In extreme cases, we should even opt for disassociation.  Condemning themselves, constantly complaining, blaming others and dwelling on all the so-called failures (instead of seeing them as learning experiences toward success) are all some of the symptoms of these people. While there are many reasons why a lifetime of mediocrity holds true for most, a main factor is not feeling worthy enough for success.  In fact, the majority fear it.  It's the oddest thing.

However, as strange as it may be, it's in our benefit to study this phenomenon.  If we understand it in ourselves, we can heal others because we are healing ourselves.  If we make our mission inclusive toward the betterment of others, we can never go wrong.  We can't cheat in this department, no matter how discreetly we try.  The minute we are selfish, we are no longer thinking about ourselves.  What do I mean by that?  Ever heard the term, "What comes around, goes around?".  If we harm others by looking after our own interests, the universe is rigged in a way that makes sure the cost gets paid in full.  The same goes true for including others in our mission and vision, in order to see our goals and dreams to fruition.  Abundance and prosperity is sure to follow.


"You can have everything in life that you want if you will just help enough other people get what they want."  -Zig Ziglar